4/2/07
Parenting ADHD Children
Author: Aliza Adar Levine
Raising an ADHD child can be extremely difficult for the entire family. Therefore, learning parenting skills that are specific to raising a child suffering from ADHD is extremely important, not only for the health of the child, but also for the relationship between child and parent. Joining a support group that is both educational and socially supportive is extremely useful; it is within this framework that parents can learn how to deal with their special children and be effective.
It is extremely important for parents to set clear goals for themselves and their child, and then be as consistent as possible.
A working parent-child relationship is essential in any family, but it is doubly important with ADHD children. For a relationship to work, you need both time and a willingness to listen. Spend at least fifteen minutes to half an hour a day with your child. Ask him or her about their day, have a conversation or eat dinner together. Simple things like these are the most important in keeping good connections with your child.
Even though it may seem like an ADHD child exhibits more types of bad behavior than good ones, it is important for you to emphasize good behavior as much as possible. The more you do so, the better their self-concept will be.
When your child has misbehaved, try to stay as calm as you possibly can. The more out of control you act, the less seriously your discipline will be taken. Make sure that when rules are broken there are very clear consequences, which should be delivered in an unemotional manner. Yelling at a child with ADHD is extremely destructive.
Give your child choices: do not tell them what to eat, wear and do. The more choices they have, the more independent they will be as time goes on.
Make sure that the relationship behaviors modeled between the parents are good ones. Children watch what you do, and will imitate what they see later on in life. Make sure to give them a positive example.
It is important for you, as parents, to have time for yourselves as well; otherwise it is only natural that you will become stressed out. This is especially true for mothers who always feel they need to give 100% of themselves at all times. Even as a mother, you are an individual and need to take care of yourself as well. This will help you stay calm when dealing with difficult situations and disciplining your child.
Remember to be strict, but kind. Being firm is good; however, being overly firm or overly passive are not. Make sure your children recognize the difference.
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Author: Aliza Adar Levine
Raising an ADHD child can be extremely difficult for the entire family. Therefore, learning parenting skills that are specific to raising a child suffering from ADHD is extremely important, not only for the health of the child, but also for the relationship between child and parent. Joining a support group that is both educational and socially supportive is extremely useful; it is within this framework that parents can learn how to deal with their special children and be effective.
It is extremely important for parents to set clear goals for themselves and their child, and then be as consistent as possible.
A working parent-child relationship is essential in any family, but it is doubly important with ADHD children. For a relationship to work, you need both time and a willingness to listen. Spend at least fifteen minutes to half an hour a day with your child. Ask him or her about their day, have a conversation or eat dinner together. Simple things like these are the most important in keeping good connections with your child.
Even though it may seem like an ADHD child exhibits more types of bad behavior than good ones, it is important for you to emphasize good behavior as much as possible. The more you do so, the better their self-concept will be.
When your child has misbehaved, try to stay as calm as you possibly can. The more out of control you act, the less seriously your discipline will be taken. Make sure that when rules are broken there are very clear consequences, which should be delivered in an unemotional manner. Yelling at a child with ADHD is extremely destructive.
Give your child choices: do not tell them what to eat, wear and do. The more choices they have, the more independent they will be as time goes on.
Make sure that the relationship behaviors modeled between the parents are good ones. Children watch what you do, and will imitate what they see later on in life. Make sure to give them a positive example.
It is important for you, as parents, to have time for yourselves as well; otherwise it is only natural that you will become stressed out. This is especially true for mothers who always feel they need to give 100% of themselves at all times. Even as a mother, you are an individual and need to take care of yourself as well. This will help you stay calm when dealing with difficult situations and disciplining your child.
Remember to be strict, but kind. Being firm is good; however, being overly firm or overly passive are not. Make sure your children recognize the difference.
About the Author:
Aliza Adar Levine,an RN,TCM Herbalist,and Medical Researcher,was part of the hospital research team that developed "Clarity", a safe, natural ADHD treatment, proven highly effective, in clinical trials. Watch Free Great ADHD Videos!
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